Taming The Beast – Nursing’s Sense of Humanity

We know that the healthcare industry is a beast to navigate. Like many, I had a ringside seat early in my life in experiencing what the healthcare system can do to families. Everyone at one time of another uses the healthcare system. And those who find themselves dependent on the system experience the gaps, the confusion, and the loss of control amidst the complicated communications and decisions that have to be made. Nurses Are Not Expected To Fix Everything We as nurses see these sit...
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Is This You?

I have had this Healthy Qualities infographic image on my desktop for sometime.... wondering if this is me.      Thank you Deepak Chopra for identifying the qualities that define healthy..... I still have a way to go ... The Bigger Question is,  If  "Who We Are Is How We Lead" .... Then what are the direct overlaps between nurse leadership and these healthy qualities? Nursing Leadership -   Porter-O'Grady and Malloch Porter-O'Grady and Malloch are 2  iconic thought leaders/write...
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Four Nurse-Centered Authentic Caring Fundamentals

As I revise my book, Getting Real About Caring, four fundamentals keep rising up ...   I’m sharing them today.  They seem so profound.  Your Thoughts? I'll start here ...  I believe that it is our job as leaders to help nurses make sense of forces in their work environment, and to help nurses forge a bridge between those forces and themselves. I believe that our current emphasis on patient-centered care without equal time on how nurses are to sort through the rapid fire stimuli in t...
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One Wedding and Four Agreements

We had a wedding this past weekend.  One of our daughters got married. It was stunningly beautiful.  Despite the planning delays — associated with the bride's June graduation, the groom starting a new job in a new city in July, and their move into a new house in August, the logistical challenges,  and not feeling in control of the process along the way ... it was beautiful.  Coming down from this experience prompted me to reread The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz upon my return home...
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Do The Pressures of Self-Care Guilt You?

What Self-Care Is - Self-care are those things you do for yourself to feel better and be healthier. The question is,  ... Are you guilted by self-care? The need for it The pressures of doing it The obstacles of doing it The guilt for not doing it If so, You Are Not Alone Yet .... Here are 2 realities we cannot escape… and both of them require self-care: Caring starts with self Who we are is how we lead My recent blogs have focused on deeper, ‘high impact’ self...
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Updates On Journaling – Beware of Traps – Do It Right

In my search for best self-care practices, I've recently learned some things about journaling that gave me pause. Some of my journaling practices may have been harming.  Eurich explains in her book about self-awareness that journaling has some traps that can suck insight out of experiences. Her research showed that it can increase self-reflection, but not insight. The Right & Wrong Ways to Journal  One researcher who has studied journaling for decades found ... journaling fo...
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Another Time Around … for Self-Awareness/ Self-Knowledge/ Self-Care

How we care It is well established that how nurses relate to themselves impacts the quality of their relationships and connections, and the care they provide. "One can only understand in another what is understood in self."   E-B, p297. There is no way around it ...     Caring starts with self. Caring connections originate within the nurse, spark from a connection between the nurse and other, are nurtured by the nurse’s internal resources, and can only be sustained by the nurse. ...
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Self-Awareness On Steroids

Self-awareness is not just reflecting, journaling, introspection, it's much more. Who knew? Me, Myself, & I I've been hooked on self-awareness for quite sometime. The 1st third of my life, I was absolutely sure of myself — who I was, what I believed, what people thought of me, etc. The 2nd third, I began to see how absolutely unaware I could be. This current third is a mixed bag ... it's growth, it's stabilizing, and sometimes it's still a mystery. Things to Know About ...
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Starting Conversations- Fear of Fumbling?

Are you good at chatting at parties with strangers, on first dates?  Small talk in elevators and in airports? I'm not.  I can be if something comes up that interests me.  But to start a conversation?  Or respond with enthusiasm to small talk?  Nay... Here's some tips on how to go from small talk to smart conversations without crashing. Fear of looking stupid lives in all of us.   And now that we have electronics in hand at all times, it's easier to avoid small talk discomfort. Bu...
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What Do You Believe About Authentic Caring?

Do you believe: You can make time in your busy schedule to lead caring in a different way? Nurses have time to provide authentic caring more frequently? Development of authentic caring capabilities is each nurse's responsibility? You have the knowledge or skills to help nurses achieve more authentic caring? If your answers are "YES" to these questions,     You Are On Your Way!  Go For It! If your answers are "Hmm",     Then Come On Along With Me. I'm like the startup ...
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